When you are single, it can feel as if every other person on the planet is one half of a couple. Of course this is not true, but as a single person, the sense that you are alone can be hard to bear, particularly at meaningful times of the year such as Valentine’s Day and New Year’s Eve. You might not be desperate to meet someone, but when everyone around you is settling down or in a committed relationship it is hard not to start wondering if something is wrong with you.
But don’t despair because there is someone out there for you – you just need to start making yourself available and looking in the right places.
Be Open to a Relationship
One thing is certain: if you don’t make any effort, you won’t meet anyone. There is little point in having a fifty point checklist and dismissing everyone who doesn’t tick every single box on that list. This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t have standards, but there is such a thing as being too picky. You need to be open to new people, even if they are not your ‘type’. Remember, good relationships are about mutual compatibility, not just superficial things such as looks and financial status.
Play the Numbers Game
Some people are lucky enough to meet the love of their life after one date, but the rest of us have to kiss an awful lot of frogs before we meet Mr or Ms Right. In order to maximise the chances of meeting your soul mate, you need to play the numbers game by dating as many people as possible. The more people you date, the more likely you are to meet a potential partner. And at the very least, you will gain a better idea of which qualities you like and dislike.
Online dating is a great way of meeting new people. The thing with online dating is that it gives you access to far more people in a much wider geographical area than you could ever hope to meet in real life. It also allows you to filter out people based on physical characteristics and other traits, so if you don’t want to meet a smoker or you like active people, you are off to a flying start.
Widen Your Social Circle
If you are struggling to meet anyone new, try taking up a new hobby. This will broaden your social circle and help you make new friends. And the more people you meet, the more likely you are to meet someone special.
Don’t Give Up
If you are happy in your own company and optimistic about life, people will want to be with you. Don’t let your single status get you down. As long as you are open to meeting someone, the right person will come along, but if you would like to know if someone special is just around the corner, visit TheCircle for advice on what the future holds for your love life.